When a couple start dating
I learned this lesson the hard way when I started dating a friend in high school.
Not only were we good friends, but our families were also extremely close and had been for years.
You can have a good time with someone else but don’t expect that person to “make up” for your loss, either.
As with so many things we encounter in life, approach the question of dating after losing a spouse by following your heart, yet listening to your head.
If you do decide to start going out again make sure you know all you can about the person before you start any kind of relationship. Dating at any age means that you need to proceed with caution.
If you don’t know the person very well do what younger people advise–meet at a public place the first time.
Whether it’s the couples that broke up before getting married or the ones that get engaged, break up and then get back together, all relationships have their issues.
We are lucky if we have families and friends that care deeply about us but we also have to remember that no one else really knows how we feel.
When we broke up nine months later, all the usual post-breakup awkwardness and bitterness were multiplied tenfold by the fact that we were forced to hang out whenever our families got together, which was often.
On the flip side, when we rekindled the flame after college, our friendship and the friendship between our families became one of the best parts about our more-than-friendship.
Only you can answer the question of when to start dating.
Don’t be influenced to follow the “one year rule” if that isn’t what you are comfortable with.